Grief

The loss of a child is the most devastating thing a parent can endure. It cuts deep into the soul. Grief can take over every part of life until you can’t feel anything else, you can’t breathe, and you can’t even see the sky. There seems to be no way out.

​Allowing your grief is a necessary part of the healing process. It’s okay to feel it. It’s even okay to be pulled under by its fierce tides. Your loss is heavy, and your world is breaking apart right now. There’s no need to rush to put all the pieces back together just yet.

Run to God with your pain and empty out your heart to Him. “In my distress...I cried to my God for help. He heard my voice ...” Psalm 18:6 (NASB)

Go to someone you trust...one who will listen and will let you pour out everything in you. Say it—whatever’s on your heart—as many times as you need to. Speaking it aloud is a vital step to healing.

Grieve the child that was taken too soon. Grieve the little one you never got to meet. Give your baby a name, even if it was too young for you to know if it was a boy or a girl. Talk about her. Give him a place in your family.

In its time, a measure of healing will come, and grief will step back into the shadows. Yes, you will carry this child forever in your heart; you wouldn’t want it any other way.
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But one day, you will learn to laugh again.

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